The
famous proverb “love has no limits” doesn’t seem to hold right in all
circumstances. It has its limit I say albeit in some bizarre situations and
places like India. I know that you are never satisfied with the status quo and
always want some improvement in your life and in this quest you blame all the
factors around you for the deplorable situation except yourself. I know this
because when in college I saw almost all my alumnus leaving their jobs to do
something better in their life or worst, just cribbing about their current job.
I resolved in my heart then that I would be happy in my job and try to excel
there. Alas, the resolve was a weak one. So here I am trying to improve my
status quo.
However,
there is one field where I never fought to improve my situation and that is in
the field of finding myself love and by love I mean the quintessential female
element that everyone is so desperately
craving in their life. Lest you venture far in your imaginations let me make my
straight orientation clear. Not that I despise homosexuals or anything but it’s
just a question of choice. Also, I am not socially that aloof, I have quite a few
number of friends among them some females too, even though many could spot some
introvert characteristics in my personality. And if there is an inverse correlation
between introvert-ism and female companionship this article would surely be a
waste of time. However assuming the contrary and being such a fan of
rationalism I tried to assess the situation.
As
far I have gathered hunger and sex are the most primitive urges of a human
being. Many studies focused on hunger have been done and its detrimental effect
on the physical and psychological well being of a man has been acknowledged. Whole
economies of countries and giant intellectuals along with it are focused on
eradicating poverty from the face of the earth. While this is an act worth
appreciation but what of the second urge. Being the taboo sex has been in post-don’t-know-what-century
very few studies have been done on the subject. Its rather depressing seeing
India in this situation when studies like Kamasutra had been done on this
subject in this country.
When
a man steals and robs in the state of poverty people try to understand their
situation if not appreciate it. Indian government has acknowledged that the
wrongful effect of poor on the environment can’t be curbed fully unless they
have been given adequate opportunity and material wealth to survive. Why don’t
we have similar sympathy for the sex starved then. They can’t be allowed to get
away with a rape just like a poor can’t be allowed with a murder or any other
crime originating from his hunger but an acknowledgement of their situation is
warranted.
Let
me make this clear with an appropriate example that I and most of the people of
my generation, I am sure, have faced. The proportion of girls in any of my
class was never greater than 10% right from school to the highest class of
study that I ever did. Many times there is a whole section of boys alone. In this
situation do you think it is possible for small kids to have a understanding or
even free interaction among them as a boy and girl. This small fissure
developed in initial periods of life and nurtured throughout becomes an unmanageable
gap in the latter periods of life. Those who are lucky 10-20% get a girl who
has been developed in a similar scenario. Majority of the rest 80% ,like me,
move on with their life and focus on ”better” things in their life but a
significant portion remains who are not satisfied with this situation. They are
mostly those who have nothing to lose in their life and live life in a sense of
revenge for all those things life hasn’t given them. They do not hesitate to
snatch what they think is their right. They do not think about consequences or
do not see very far. They rape.
But
who is the offender here. That boy who has been denied the opportunity to talk
to a girl since his childhood, who has seen almost daily family violence, who
has seen his authoritative father beat and abuse his mother or is it the
society which has created the unmanageable gap. And this society is you and me
acting as a parent and teacher. You denied them the opportunity to fulfill a
basic need and now when they become the offender you blame them solely. The solution
would never come from these hangings or even the effectiveness and surety of
justice, however important the latter might be. The change would come with the
free interaction of little kids and keeping it unhindered for his whole life.
When
I made a statement among my friends that this restriction of freedom and sex
hunger of our country is a huge burden on our development and GDP, they
laughed. It was a laugh that flashed lightness with which we approach the
subject and also a sense of approval I think to probably flatter myself. But I think
this is true. Less development among poor hinders their ability to contribute
to our economy and the same I think is true for the normal young sex starved
people. They can’t focus on normal subject with the same efficiency when an
important element of their life is missing. I intend to further study the
phenomenon.
